The older I get the more I am learning about relationships. Life changes, we change and yes our relationships change as well. Some people in our life will be life time friends while others will be seasonal. When I was younger I did not understand that all relationships were not meant to be forever. It is challenging to take a relationship into your future when it was meant to end. The signs begin to show up that this friendship has changed and what it once was it will never be again. When facing the truth about changes in our relationships it is emotional. When someone has been in your life for good and bad times, you feel like you are abandoning the friendship so you try to save it. The more we try to save a friendship that is over, the more misery both parties feel. What once was smooth and without effort now becomes work. If you are like me, my personality is to stick with you till the end..I believe in being loyal. But being loyal to something that is dying or dead will cause more pain than letting it go. Please understand me today, I am not talking about those who are toxic in your life, but rather relationships that were healthy and good. During the past decade of my life I have come to face reality that I wanted some things to work out that were never meant to stay the same. It has caused me sorrow and grief to let go of certain people to move forward. In my heart they are still important and I would do anything for them today if they ask, but we are not in the same place. Because I have learned that letting go of old things allows room for new things, today I am building new relationships. Its such a refreshing experience to learn about myself and others in my now moment of life. I keep in contact with those who were once apart of my everyday life still, but I understand they are not apart of my everyday life now. We never want to forget those who have helped us, supported us and even carried us in difficult moments in life. I am grateful for having known such wonderful people. Now it is time to open my circle and allow life to bring within my new season the relationships that are for my now!
Are you struggling with relationship changes? I would love to hear your story and how you handled it and what you have learned.
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