It just seems easier to say we are good on bad days than when asked by others than to admit we are not. We put on our mask and move through the day pretending we are together and all is well. If we had a dollar for the response “I’m good!” when we were not. Some of us would have enough to retire. 😊 What we are really doing is lying. Unconsciously most of us have trained ourself to deny our feelings or struggles. It’s as if denying a bad day will make it better. Don’t get me wrong I don’t think we should walk around announcing our problems. I do not believe we should lie either. Some days we are just not having a good day nor are we ok.
Another thing many of us do is deny needing help, when it’s clear we need help. Again when asked it is automatic to say “thanks but I’m good.” Some people hate to appear weak or not having it together, so the mask goes on. Why can’t you just say you need help and receive it? Why lie and struggle? I’m not throwing any stones because I use to be one of those people. I did not see it as lying but after careful insight if it’s not the truth it’s a lie. You may not agree. Take a look at your own answers to simple questions people ask you. Are you quick to answer the opposite or do you say what is really facts? Do we tell the truth to ourself when bothered, irrated, challenged or overwhelmed? If you find yourself lying to yourself it’s possible you are lying to others. It’s time to tell the truth and be free.
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